Friday, December 22, 2006
Social Gatherings & Leading
"Being on a roll is a lot about leading. It's hard to be on a roll
when you are not the one steering the car. If you are not already, try
asking fewer questions and making more statements. Be the one who
introduces new topics of conversation before a subject becomes stale.
And try to get others involved in conversation who are not."
-Juggler
Its the time of the year where friends, family and new friends come together to celebrate the season's festivities. In the past week I met old school friends, a girl I was in love with 10 years ago, another that I'm completely turned on by, new friends who I'll be celebrating with in 07 and all through Christmas parties. Socialising so much in the last week reinforced the importance of constantly leading interactions. A factor which seperates guys who get respect, attraction and attention from those who may be equally financially successful, good-looking, stylish, but get none, is their ability to lead. Bringing up more interesting topics of conversation, bringing energy levels up, making things personal, showing genuine interest, isolating. These are all your job. I noticed everytime a conversation stalled, I hadnt taken a risk, switched topics, made things personal enough. The great thing is, its easy to recover.
Her- Getting technical about her Accountancy job...
(I'm getting bored, shes repeating an auto response, this isnt going anywhere)
Me- "You're so passionate about your work, I like that! So an Accountant by day, what do you get up to in your extended time?"
Realise that at every stage of the interaction it is your job to lead. To turn negative topics into positive ones. To suggest sitting on the comfortable sofa next door. To appreciate her unique qualities. To make time spent with you more fun and captivating than anyone else in the room.
I'd also like to give special thanks to Peyman, Juggler, Khiem, Soapz, SHH, Spitkicker, MBP and GhettoBob for everything you shared and taught me this year. Enjoy the Holidays and see y'all in 07!
-Aero
